The Spectacular Now

Now playing: Song for Zula by Phosphorescent

"Compared to other kids, I haven't had that many hardships... not really. Shit's... Stuff's happened, sure, but stuff always happens right? But the real challenge of my life, the real hardship is me. It's always been me." - Sutter

This is true. We are constantly limiting ourselves in obvious and subliminal ways. We always pretend that there are boundaries that keep us from acknowledging our true potential. We blame it on genes, our environment, our mistakes and our peers. Of course, they are influential to what a person's potential can be, no doubt... but ultimately it is ourselves that is physically preventing us from achieving our potentials.

"My mom/dad was an alcoholic so I'm doomed to be like that. My friends always pressure me to make impractical choices and I always end up following their advice. It's always them versus me, and I can't do anything about my fate." Wrong. You create your own fate. We're not doomed to be anything. It's always changing and that power to change is literally in us (how corny). God, promise me you won't let mistakes (even if they are consecutive) make you neglect the motivation to try again. And if you mess up again, keep fucking trying. Just because you do hold the power to change, it doesn't mean that you are to blame because you don't see the change right away. Do not get used to dissatisfaction at the same time do not get used to your triumphs. Identify problems, fix them, and celebrate successes.

Yes. Live in the spectacular now, for it is spectacular. But there's another "now" tomorrow, although it may not be guaranteed. That is why balance is so undoubtedly important. Live for today, for there may not be another tomorrow. However, plan for tomorrows so you can live a spectacular today. Don't be worrisome of the tomorrow that it takes away your today... and live a today that will help make a better tomorrow.

Fall irrevocably in and out of love. Be reckless. Accept your consequences. Learn. Who do you want to be? What do you want to be? What do you love? What did you love and what changed? What do others encourage you about? Got the answers? Good. Now answer this... what's stopping you?

There is always a way around something. If you haven't found the way, try harder and be okay with the result.

PS. And God, don't panic if you don't have all the answers, let alone just one. It's never too late to answer any of those questions. Patience.

<3 Little Mer

Sutter: Once you've actually talked to her, you see who she is.